Forgiveness

“For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matthew 6:14-15, NAS).”
We all need to be so heavily clothed in the spirit of humility that we are able to walk in a perpetual internal condition of forgiveness. Meaning, we are to have forgiveness readily available for those who have not yet offended us. My friend Ruby taught me a great technique many years ago about how to alleviate unforgiveness and judgment that we form against others. It is, figuratively speaking, to put people in “the chair.”
The way it works it to pull a chair in front of you, pretend that the person who has hurt you is sitting there. Then begin to tell them what they have done to hurt, offend or anger you. Once you have released your irritations, forgive them from the heart (Matthew 18:35). The next step is to confess to God and repent of all judgment you have formed in your heart against them. Next, pray and ask God to apply His forgiveness for the judgment against them. This is an excellent technique. Getting our own hearts clean is our issue, not whether or not they hear our plea or receive our forgiveness or apology for what they did wrong. It really has nothing to do with the other person at all.
I have heard people say to me, “Well, I think putting people in the chair is a cop out. I should go to those people every time to repent of my unforgiveness (or whatever) directly to the one who offended me. How they react does not matter, only that I tell them what they did wrong, how it affected me, what is going on with me and that I forgive them anyway.” Clearly there are times when we should go to an actual person. If the one who hurt or offended us is a friend, they should be able to listen, apologize for their action, and forgive us for whatever we’ve held in your heart against them.
Please understand that putting people in “the chair” is strictly for the purpose of keeping our own hearts clean before God. The attitude of “I have to confront the offender” is wrong because what may seem humble on our part by confessing to the offender that we forgive them is really an act of revenge. It is having the perspective of, “I’m going to tell them what they did to me because they need to know.” However, in reality, people with this attitude (generally speaking) just want to tell the offender what they did wrong so that they will hurt like the offended.
This person’s so called “confession” to the offender of their personal unforgiveness and judgment is not an act of humility. In return for such a confession, there’s just more anger and judgment going round and round, now in both people. If the offender did not accept the so-called apology and became angry at the anger of the offended, both the offended and the offender grow ever more angry. By going to the actual person, fire is being fueled when it all could have been avoided simply by keeping mouths closed and deal with personal issues in our quiet time with Yahweh. Silence takes genuine humility.
There may be someone who offends us (or trie to) regularly. It is not necessary to go to them every time. If we do, we simply irritate the situation by going to them and, in turn, make them angry. We then are the ones who make our brother or sister fall and the guilt lies on us. Be very careful and discerning about whom we are to apologize in person, and who to forgive quietly. Nine times out of ten, quietly in the privacy of our own home and heart is the best resolution.
Remember, the person who has offended us may be very fragile in their heart. If we, thinking only of ourselves, go to them when they upset us, we may make them feel worse about themselves because they did not know what they did. Another scenario could be that the offender has confirmation that they accomplished their task of annoying us and they will continue all the more. Some people are full of evil spirits and it is their mission to cause as much havoc in the lives of others as possible. Be careful with people. We are a fragile creation and we need tender, loving care that can only be given through obedience to Holy Spirit within.
I hope you’ll come back next week as we continue to explore the subject of forgiveness. If you’re interested in reading more on this subject, please go to my website and check out my books.
Peace and blessings,
Alexys V. Wolf
www.thefierysword.com
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7 replies

  1. Love the way you explained it, thank you so much:)

  2. Reblogged this on Christian Faith in Truth & Spirit and commented:
    We all need to remember this and practise this everyday. Beautifully written.

  3. Excellent post. I gained a new insight and appreciate the wisdom you shared.

  4. Reblogged this on Inspirational Christian Blogs and commented:

    This is an excellent post on FORGIVENESS. I gained a new insight and will hopefully apply the wisdom shared by the author.

  5. I reposted your article on my blog and FB Author Page. Thank you Alexys!
    http://facingtrials.com/forgiveness-and-the-chair/

  6. Great post. And the empty ‘chair’ is effective, especially if the person is willing to do the work.
    Blessings
    JC

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